I often wonder how many people right now are stuck in a state of inertia in their lives.
I was once.
Are you one of those people?
And if you are, do you know why you are?
And even more importantly, can you imagine yourself at some point in the future feeling like you are riding the crest of a wave rather than constantly treading water?
Big questions I know!
But, truly, how many unhappy and unfulfilled people seriously give time to working out the reasons why they are where they are and how they can get to a more rewarding place?
The answer, to a large degree, lies in being able to properly reflect.
Think about the world of work.
We all know how it goes. It’s drilled into us from a pretty early age. After we go to school and hopefully get good grades we then go to university and hopefully get a good degree and we then enter the workplace. And here we will remain until we get to retire (whenever that may be!).
And when we retire, that’s when we can finally enjoy the fruits of our labour. Only then will we have the time and financial freedom to travel the world, pursue our hobbies, catch up with lost friends etc. etc.
How many times have you heard people saying they can’t wait until payday because they have no money or they accept their working life has to be like this as it ‘pays the bills’?
They feel trapped but they accept it has to be this way, because society has told them that there is no alternative.
Now don’t get me wrong. Some people love the 9-5 and the challenge of taking on more responsibility as they climb the career ladder. And that’s great for them. They’re happy – that’s all that matters!
But I’m pretty sure there are far more people in work who are disenchanted, unfulfilled, underappreciated and feel a sense of hopelessness.
The same applies outside of work, in other areas of life. Why are so many people these days drained of energy, devoid of inspiration and generally suffering from a stifling inertia?
But how many of those individuals are seriously reflecting on the one big question – WHY DOES IT HAVE TO BE LIKE THIS?
And how many of them even know that question even exists?!
So, what is the answer to WHY DOES IT HAVE TO BE LIKE THIS…
And why doesn’t it?
Because we live in a world where it’s now easier than ever before to become an entrepreneur. And crucially, we have the internet, which is increasingly enabling more and more open-minded, self-aware individuals to escape the drudgery of the 9-5 and instead do something amazing and life-changing.
I’ll tell you at the end of this blog how I discovered the most unbelievable opportunity – one which has changed my life and could change your life too.
If anything I’m saying resonates with you, I have one question. Are you willing to change your beliefs? Are you willing to do some serious reflection on your journey so far and see what else is out there?
If you want a brighter, more exciting, more lucrative and more fulfilling future then change the way you look at change. Instead of absorbing it and accepting it you have to create it.
And to create it you need to first understand where you are now in your life and what it is you are unhappy with.
Here are some ideas about how you can do this:
Start with the people in your life. Write down a list of all of the people who have most influence over you – positive and negative – and score them out of ten, with 0 being a terrible influence and 10 being a brilliant one.
Then, reflect on the results. What was the average score?
How many people in your list are offering you little positivity or none at all? And out of these people, how many are actively draining you of your positivity.
Ask yourself, do I really need these people in my life?
Where possible, let the negative people go. You just don’t need them. Instead, focus on the good people in your life. What can you do to develop those relationships? What can you do to engender an amazing feeling of happiness and positivity in those relationships?
You may also be able to start spotting a pattern here. Do you attract a certain type of person into your life? If so, that may be due to your own habits and values.
Think about any bad habits that you have that don’t serve you. Write them down on a piece of paper and be brutally honest. What habits do you have that sabotage you? It could be drinking too much, not exercising regularly, eating too much junk food or even biting your nails.
Habits are hard but far from impossible to break . And if you can break a bad habit you will feel a new sense of purpose and energy you didn’t know you had buried deep within.
Think, reflect, be honest, write everything down. You will find that things start to become clearer for you.
Once you have come up with your list of bad habits, write a new list of how you will have replaced that bad habit with a good one in a month, or in six months (you choose).
For example, maybe you hardly practice yoga anymore. In one month, you want to be doing that four times a week!
Take things slowly but surely, one step at a time. You will notice small incremental changes eventually lead to massive change.
Even if you don’t believe me right now, you have the potential to harness your interests to create a business for yourself. That’s right – you can forge a new and exciting career in an area that you are truly passionate about.
So go on, write down a list of anything you are knowledgeable and passionate about. Are you a parent who has a particular interest in parenting skills and wants to educate other parents on these? Are you a landscape gardener in your spare time? Do you enjoy cooking healthy meals? Do you like flying drones?
Have a really good think and write everything down.
It’s also a good idea to ask colleagues, friends and family about this. They will tell you straight away what it is you always talk to them about.
This is the most important of all in that it will frame everything when you embark on your new journey.
What is it about yourself that you like? What do other people like about you? What parts of your personality are you glad that you have?
Are you caring, resourceful, creative, resolute? Or maybe you are open-minded, a good listener, dedicated and inspirational?
The same applies to other people. What values do you treasure and respect in other people? What is it about them that you wish you could be like?
Clarify the values that you relate to and write them down and then create a mission statement for your life, based on the values you have identified. This mission statement will then imbue everything you do, whether in work, with your friends and family or in your interactions with the world.
Here’s an example, to help you:
- I am open minded and always wanting to embrace new ideas and ventures. I always listen to other points of view and I treasure and respect independent thinking. I respect the views of others, even if I disagree.
- I am self-aware and will always try to reflect on my own behaviours, character and how I react to events and interactions to ensure I learn from experiences and continue to grow as a person.
- I am honest and have integrity. My goal in live is to be healthy, wealthy, and happy and to help others whenever I can. I will do this through hard work, dedication, constant reflection and challenging myself.
- I will always try to see the world in new ways to enable vitality, inspiration and positivity to flow into my life.
The need to spend some quality time to self-reflect is paramount if you are serious about taking a new path in life.
It was only when I began my journey with Six Figure Mentors that I realised the crucial importance of this. They taught me how to shine a light on the most important thing I needed – how to take stock of where I was in my life, and what were the reasons why I was at that point.
In other words, how to properly reflect.
I realised that, only by truly understanding that my beliefs, habits and preconceptions, could I be ready to begin a new journey that has been, and I have no doubt, will continue to be, life changing.
SFM provided the spark that I needed, when I needed it most.
It just could be that same spark could fire you in a new direction too.